For those who do wonder

(if at all..?)

To clear up the confusion:

http://forums.crosswalk.com/m_1427198/mpage_1/tm.htm (a men's forum on the "grey" areas of marital rape. Some use 1st Cor 7:4 to justify abusive behaviour. Look out for Sekira's answers.)

Other things you can expect
Most rape victims are suffering from Rape Related PTSD which may make the victim feel very disoriented.

At this stage victims may do or say things which aren't logical. While it's important to make a victim feel that they have regained control over their life and decisions, victims often have great difficulty functioning after an assault. It is crucial that the people around them educate themselves to recognize the immediate symptoms and help victims get treatment.

• http://members.tripod.com/lmsurratt/section5.htm (on perception, vulnerability, experience, etc)

How you can help:

• http://www.survivingtothriving.org/secondarysurvivors (how-tos for helpers--especially page's middle and below.)
• http://www.hopeforhealing.org/friend.html (the fears listed and the PSTD link below is useful)